| Mail Online
Being unable to deal with ambivalence can result in people being stuck in a swamp of indecision or 'acting out' to get rid of the negative feelings by, for instance, having an affair. Or it can result in people drifting through life. They may say they're 'just going with the flow', but what they are really doing is letting other people make their big life decisions for them because they can't face their own contradictory feelings.
At the same time, when we are unable to tolerate strong conflicting emotions, we tend to put them on a pedestal and see them as completely flawless - or can hardly bear to pass the time of day.
'Like children, many of us still tend to see the world as black and white, good or bad, right or wrong, joyful or depressed'
Like children, many of us still tend to see the world as black and white, good or bad, right or wrong, joyful or depressed. We create heroes and villains. Which means we are not particularly good at living with the anxiety, ambivalence and ambiguity of life in the middle, in the vast grey area.
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