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Monday, July 30, 2012

Why you SHOULD forgive and forget - it's good for your heart

via : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2180940/Why-SHOULD-forgive-forget--good-heart.html#ixzz2269o0eRp

Those who thought about a hurtful event in a forgiving way were protected from spikes in blood pressure

  • Hypertension increases the risk of heart attack and stroke

They say to err is human, to forgive divine. But new research has revealed that excusing people who have hurt you can actually boost your health.
Researchers from the University of California, San Diego, found those people who let go of their anger were less likely to see spikes in blood pressure.
They asked just over 200 volunteers to think about a time when a friend had offended them. Half of the group were told to think about how it had angered them while the other half were encouraged to consider it in a more forgiving way.

The particpants were then all distracted for five minutes after which they were told to think about the event again in any way they chose.
The participants were wired  up to monitors, which took blood pressure and heart rate readings.
The team, led by Dr Britta Larsen, found the angry group saw the greatest increase in blood pressure compared to the forgiving group after the first ruminating session. The effect was seen later on despite having the brief timeout period to calm down. However, there was no differences in heart rate.
The authors said that although it was small study, their research - published in the Journal of Biobehavioural Medicines - suggested forgiveness could 'lower reactivity' to stressful events and even offer 'sustained protection' from the physical impact.
Short-term rises in blood pressure are not known to be harmful. However, over a longer period high blood pressure - or hypertension - increases the risk of heart attack or stroke.
Around 30 per cent of adults in the UK have hypertension although many are unaware of it as there aren't obvious symptoms. Those most at risk are overweight, are of African or Caribbean descent, consume a lot of salt, don't exercise much, drink large amounts of coffee and are aged over 65.
The NHS recommends that all adults have their blood pressure checked every five years.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2180940/Why-SHOULD-forgive-forget--good-heart.html#ixzz2269g96O3

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Manaf Tlass


via Yahoo News
BEIRUT (AP) — Syria's most prominent defector offered himself up Thursday as a figure to unite the fractious opposition, saying he failed to persuade his former friend, President Bashar Assad, to end a bloody crackdown that has killed thousands of Syrians.
The remarks by Manaf Tlass, a Syrian brigadier general until he abandoned the regime this month, were published in a Saudi newspaper just as opposition factions gathered in Qatar to try to agree on a transitional leadership if Assad's regime falls.
Some opposition members are deeply skeptical of Tlass, believing he's far too close to the regime.
Mahmoud Othman, a member of the opposition Syrian National Council, said Tlass would simply "bring back the regime with a different image."
"Those who recently defected from the regime must not take part in leading the transitional period," Othman told The Associated Press from Istanbul, where he is based. "After the transitional period, the Syrian people will choose whomever they want through the ballots."

Syrian Brig. Gen. Manaf Tlass walks with Turkey’s Foreign Minister Ahmet Davutoglu, unseen, before a Ramadan fast-breaking dinner at Davutoglu's residence in Ankara, Turkey, Thursday, July 26, 2012.

Members of the SNC met Thursday, but made no decisions on a possible leadership to fill the vacuum if Assad falls, according to Burhan Ghalioun, a former leader of the group.
The SNC has acted as the international face of the revolution, but it has been unable to unite all dozens of disparate rebel and opposition factions under one banner.
Ghalioun said talks would continue Friday and could stretch on past this series of meetings.
Tlass, a commander in the powerful Republican Guard and the son of a former defense minister, defected three weeks ago. Although the regime has remained largely intact over the course of the 17-month-old uprising, the pace of defections appears to be picking up.
"I will try to help as much as I can to unite all the honorable people inside and outside Syria to put together a roadmap to get us out of this crisis, whether there is a role for me or not," he told the Al-Sharq Al-Awsat daily in an interview.
He said he was in Saudi Arabia — a key financial backer of the rebellion — to assess what kind of assistance the oil-rich nation could give to help create a new Syria. He said he does not see a future for Syria with Assad at the helm. The last time he saw the president, he said, was about a year ago.
Turkey's Foreign Ministry also announced a surprise visit by Tlass on Thursday. He attended a dinner with Foreign Minister Ahmet Davutoglu, who has been an outspoken Assad critic. Turkey's intelligence chief and a senior foreign ministry official also were at the dinner.
Tlass left Davutoglu's residence after about an hour, wearing a dark suit with a light blue shirt, the top buttons undone. He didn't take any questions and was driven away in the back of a BMW.
Since his defection, Tlass has spoken publicly only twice, both times to Saudi-controlled media.
Tlass, once a personal friend of Assad, told the newspaper that the regime has many good people without blood on their hands and that the country's institutions should be preserved. He said he tried to persuade the president not to listen to his inner circle of security advisers who were all recommending a harsh crackdown on the uprising.
Tlass said he defected when he realized the regime could not be deterred from its single-minded pursuit of crushing the opposition.
"Sometimes in a friendship you advise a friend many times, and then you discover that you aren't having any impact, so you decide to distance yourself," he said.
A handsome man in his mid-40s, Manaf led an extravagant lifestyle, and he and his wife were fixtures on the social scene in Syria, where he often spoke on Assad's behalf.
Tlass was also a powerful Sunni in a government dominated by the Alawite sect, an offshoot of Shiite Islam. His father, Mustafa Tlass, was the most trusted lieutenant of the late Hafez Assad, the president's father and predecessor.
The conflict in Syria, which activists say has killed more than 19,000 people since March 2011, has drawn deep international condemnation. But world powers have few options to help beyond diplomacy — in part because of fears that any military intervention could exacerbate an already explosive battle. Syria's close ties to Iran and the Islamic militant group Hezbollah in Lebanon mean that the conflict has the potential to draw in the country's neighbors.
In Washington, the Obama administration is weighing its options for more direct involvement in the Syrian civil war if the rebels opposing the Assad regime can wrest enough control to create a safe haven for themselves, U.S. officials said.
Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton says it's only a matter of time before the rebels have enough territory and organization to create such areas.
"More and more territory is being taken," Clinton said this week. "It will eventually result in a safe haven inside Syria, which will then provide a base for further actions by the opposition."
Still, U.S. officials are insisting they won't provide arms to Syria's anti-Assad forces or push for a no-fly zone over rebel-controlled areas.
For more than a week, Assad's regime has suffered a string of blows, although his forces are regaining their momentum. After a rebel rush on the capital — including a brazen bombing that killed four top regime insiders — the government routed the fighters by calling in attack helicopters and heavy weapons that devastated entire neighborhoods.
Rebels have been fighting for six days in the commercial capital Aleppo, and on Thursday they braced for a government onslaught amid reports that the regime is massing reinforcements to retake the embattled city of 3 million. They reported more intense firepower being used against them, including artillery strikes.
"Regime forces have been randomly shelling neighborhoods, and the civilians are terrified," local activist Mohammed Saeed told the AP via Skype.
U.S. State Department spokeswoman Victoria Nuland said Washington has "grave concerns" about tanks and fighter jets being used in a densely populated city.
"The concern is that we will see a massacre in Aleppo, and that's what the regime appears to be lining up for," she said.
The clashes have spread to neighborhoods close to the center of the city, which has a medieval center that is a UNESCO world heritage site.
According to the Britain-based Syrian Observatory for Human Rights, some 130 people have been killed in Aleppo since the clashes there began last Saturday.
As the violence continues, U.N. Secretary General Ban Ki-moon said he fears for Syria's future. On Thursday, he paid his respects to the 8,000 victims of the 1995 Srebrenica massacre — and said he does not want his successor to have to do the same 20 years from now in Syria.
"The international community must be united not to see any further bloodshed in Syria because I do not want to see any of my successors, after 20 years, visiting Syria, apologizing for what we could have done now to protect the civilians in Syria — which we are not doing now," he said during a visit to a memorial-cemetery complex near Srebrenica, Bosnia-Herzegovina.

Three Stories of Extraordinary Forgiveness (via ABC News)

via http://abcnews.go.com/US/cases-extraordinary-forgiveness/story?id=16065270#

In 2010 Yvonne Stern was the target of three hits. Her husband Jeffrey Stern's former mistress later pleaded guilty to arranging them. The first two times, the bullets missed Yvonne Stern. The third time, the bullet went through her stomach, and she recovered from the injury.
Jeffrey Stern has admitted to the affair but denied ex-mistress Michelle Gaiser's allegation that he was the mastermind behind the hits. On Monday, Stern will go on trial for solicitation of capital murder. Gaiser, who got a reduced sentence in exchange for her guilty plea and cooperation with the government, is scheduled to testify against him.

Many people refuse to forgive a spouse for cheating, much less for cheating with someone who then tried -- three times -- to have them killed, allegedly with the spouse's help. But Yvonne Stern is standing by her man.
"I forgive him his indiscretions," Yvonne Stern said in a court appearance.
Here are three other stories of extraordinary forgiveness.

1. Forgiving a Harmful Prank
Which is harder to forgive: a moral lapse like cheating on your spouse or just casual, banal stupidity?
This past fall, Marion Hedges, a New York City mother of two, suffered a serious brain injury and lost the use of an eye after two teens sent a shopping cart crashing down 50 feet onto her at the East Harlem Target shopping center.
The cart hit Hedges, 47, in the head. She was briefly in a coma and spent weeks fighting for her life.
"I wish them well, I do," Hedges said recently of the boys who performed the prank; they pleaded guilty and are now serving juvenile sentences. "I feel very sorry for them. My son is 13 also, and he is a very good boy."
Hedges was at Target that day to buy Halloween candy for underprivileged children.
Hedges' father-in-law, Michael Hedges Sr., was less forgiving, saying he believed the boys should be "hung by their toenails."

2.Two Family Men
"How's your kids?"
That's the question Gary Weinstein found himself asking during a jailhouse meeting with the man who killed Weinstein's wife and two sons, according to the Detroit Free Press.
In a way it was an understandable question. Weinstein and Tom Wellinger lived within a mile of each other in Farmington Hills, Mich. They were both fathers. Their children attended the same schools.
In May 2005, Wellinger, driving with a blood-alcohol content more than twice the legal limit, rammed into the car containing Weinstein's wife and two sons, the Free Press reported.
Members of Wellinger's family had flown to Michigan to mount an intervention about his alcoholism, the paper said. It was scheduled for the day after the accident.
Wellinger's reply to Weinstein's jailhouse question was that he hadn't seen his son in more than a year, because he was underage and therefore not allowed in the jail.
Weinstein told the Free Press that Wellinger asked if he could ever forgive him.
Weinstein answered with a question: "Can you forgive yourself?"
Weinstein has since reportedly offered to speak to Wellinger's children to help them heal while Wellinger serves his 19-30 year sentence for three counts of second-degree murder. He has also formally agreed not to block attempts for an early release, the Free Press said.

3.A Mother's Grief and Mercy
"That has to be the most gracious victim statement I've heard in this courtroom. And I'm not so sure I'd be able to be as gracious as you are, ma'am."
Rankin County (Miss.) Circuit Judge William Chapman spoke these words last Monday at the conclusion of the trial of Jermaine Tyler, 31, the Jackson Clarion-Ledger reported. Tyler pleaded guilty to murdering Leslie Sheppard Doame, 37, after robbing her parents' home last September.
The victim statement Chapman referenced was by Teresa Sheppard, the victim's mother, the Clarion-Ledger said. Sheppard reportedly told the court and Tyler that she and Leslie's father forgive him and love him, "because Jesus commands that we love our enemy."
"Even when her father and I were crying to the depths of our souls, our first prayers were for the murderers," she said.

Night shift and sociopolitical issue

http://m.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/jul/29/barbara-ellen-plight-of-shift-workers?cat=commentisfree&type=article
Is the night shift a sociopolitical
issue? Findings printed in the
British Medical Journalfrom
teams of researchers in Canada
and Norway might suggest so. In
the largest analysis of shift work
and heart risk to date, involving
34 studies and more than two
million people, while there was
mainly judged no direct link to
mortality, working shifts was
discovered to raise the chances of
a heart attack by more than a
fifth, with the risk of a stroke
rising by 5%. The sharpest
increase for coronary events was
with night shifts.
Previously, shift work has also
been linked to conditions such as
diabetes, high blood pressure and
long-term disruption of sleep
patterns and body clocks. Experts
say that this could be resolved by
workers being given adequate
time (two nights minimum) to
recover properly between shifts.
Great. Problem solved. But who's
going to ensure that this is
happening?
It seems that the night-shift
worker must contend with
working in a state akin to
constant debilitating jetlag.
Furthermore, a night-shift
worker is quite probably
navigating an unregulated, or
scantily regulated, work
environment, where nobody
needs to care very much about
their basic human needs for a
minimum of two lovely big sleeps
between shifts.
Lower socioeconomic status was
taken into account in this study,
as well as poor diet and other bad
lifestyle choices, but there seems
to be no overstating the high
probability that these may be
directly related to shift work.
Shift workers are going to be
exhausted, therefore they're
going to eat like tired people
(poorly); exercise like tired
people (who's going for a jog
after a night shift?); and even, as
another study found, drive like
tired people (erratically). So, hey,
maybe they should stop doing
these terrible shifts. Silly people –
they are ruining their health!
Well, it would be nice if they

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